COURAGE : Why and where it fails?

let's talk about courage. Why and where it fails?

Think a scenario in which you are being accused of something you haven't done. Or a situation in which you are being forced to do something you don't want to.  Place yourself in the shoes of those thousands of women who are daily subjected to domestic violence. Who wake up early in the morning, and are usually the last to go to their beds. Who work hard all morning and yet are not appreciated. Compare your life with those women who are sex workers. Who sells their bodies for a few cent! Who are compelled to sleep with different men every night. Behind those closed doors is a compassionate mother and a helpless daughter. Compare yourself to that child whose life has been ruined as a result of verdict passed down by the tribal elders at a jirga. But she is resolving a dispute between two families, so she is doing a right thing. Because that's what she was born for. To keep alive a marriage just because she failed to understand how to break this cycle of abuse. To keep on selling her body because it gets her more money than begging. To be sold out like an object because she is basically ending a generation long disagreement.

How could we not tell our daughters that they are not for granted? How could we let them stay in a relation which is clearly hurting them? How could we go out at night and throw money at some one's daughter and ask her to sell her honor? Why did we failed in making them understand that love is not supposed to hurt? Where did we go wrong?

Remember the time she was so enthusiastically telling her POV and aunty you slammed her down, because her brother was on the other side of argument?
She thought maybe she has no right to have a different POV than her brother.
She was psychologically abused by her boyfriend and ended in an institution.

Remember the time when Uncle you were screaming at her, and she was later told that it was for her own good?
She thought screaming was a way of protecting her.
She was one out of the four victim of domestic violence.

Remember the time girl when you passed those objectifying comments about her body?
She though maybe friends are allowed to do so.
She later committed suicide for the trolling on the social media regarding those parts of her body.

Remember. Remember. Remember.

He said it won't happen again. She told me it will stop after sometime. I was told to adjust, not to let go. I was told to compromise, not to raise my voice. I was told to keep on going, when clearly i was not able to. I was asked to smile, when my eyes were crying for help. Why my family failed in noting that black and blue?

How is she supposed to tell you all this when 603 million live where domestic abuse is not even a crime? How is she supposed to tell you who violated her when you are so busy blaming her? How is she supposed to say no to a marriage when she is just six years old child? But that's not what majority asked. They ask from a rape victim what she was wearing? They ask from a domestic abused victim why did she leave her husband's home? They ask from a sex worker why does she do it? They ask all sort of questions which leads to nothing except humiliation. Those are the people who are not looking for the solution. Instead they are just making the problem even bigger. What they failed to understand is that if they won't stand up today for someone else daughter no one will stand for their daughter in the future.

Stop being humiliated. You are not to be blamed. Be the voice to raise hope.Be the light which leads people home. Be the one people seek comfort in. When you raise a daughter teach her to be fearless. Teach her to keep her head higher. She needs to know that you got her back no matter what. But mostly believe in her. Don't let that moment arrive when you'll sit down and think why and where her courage failed?